The Art of Sexual Desire
A self-paced, 90-minute online course with scientifically-backed methods to boost your libido and build a sex life that excites you.
What couples are saying
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"What turns you on the most about me?"
"What did you like about me when we first met?"
"What's your favorite sexual memory of us?"
"Is there a sexual fantasy that you'd like to make come true? If so, how would you like it to play out and what are our roles?"
the Story behind our CARD deck
Did you know that talking about sex leads to more desire, arousal, lubrication and orgasms?
Yet most couples have a hard time talking about it and it prevents them from having better sex and feeling closer to each other.
So I set out to build a card deck that makes it fun, easy and sexy to talk about the awkward stuff!
Over 5k couples have loved it and we've been featured in Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Goop, HuffPost (to name a few).
If you want to discover things you never thought possible and build great memories together, you'll love our Mindful Intimacy Card Deck.
- Natassia, sexologist and founder of Wonderlust
Approved by sex therapists
Sex Therapist
"As a therapist, I can say this for certain: you can do all the therapy you want, but eventually you have to talk to your partner, too. The Mindful Intimacy Deck provides the vocabulary to do just that."
Sex Therapist
"This is a wonderful deck to enhance intimacy, emotionally and sexually, with new or long-term partners. The artwork is fantastic, so erotic and inclusive. The questions offer gentle topics and fodder for deeper conversation."
Women's Intimacy Coach
"Mindful Intimacy is the card deck I recommend most often to my intimacy coaching clients. It strikes the perfect balance between playful and deep, emotional and physical."
FAQ's
Both men and women who experience a lack of sexual desire and want to improve their sex lives.
This course is not for trans people, simply due to the research on which this course is based.
It's also not for you if you're not ready to commit time and effort to the course and its exercises.
Yes, it’s a great opportunity for you to learn how sexual desire works, which misconceptions you hold, and how to create change together. While you can’t force your partner to do the exercises, you will be equipped to ask them better questions and navigate this more successfully.
No, this course is for couples and singles. It's for anyone who struggles with desire, regardless of their relationship status. The exercises can be done both with a sexual partner or on your own.
The Art of Sexual Desire
A self-paced, 90-minute online course with scientifically-backed methods to boost your libido and build a sex life that excites you.
“After our son was born 4 years ago, my connection with my husband felt like it was on pause. This course gave us the tools and insights to reconnect both emotionally and sexually. I feel like we've found each other all over again, with even deeper bonds in this new phase of our life.”
Verified Buyer
"I was skeptical at first, but my wife encouraged me to give this course a try. I'm glad I did. We have different desire styles (she's the spontaneous one) and for the first time in 15 years, we've been able to bridge that gap and enjoy sex more thanks to the strategies we learned."
Verified Buyer
"At 65, this course has opened my eyes in ways I couldn't have imagined. I only wish I had learned this 40 years ago. I'm excited to put these in action with my husband as we reconnect in the bedroom."
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Having a vibrant and fulfilling sex life isn't a pipe dream.
Many people experience dips in their libido, and it can be incredibly frustrating and disheartening. Imagine reigniting that spark and feeling a renewed sense of passion and intimacy. This course is designed to help you do just that.
Through scientifically-backed methods and practical exercises, you'll discover the underlying causes of your low desire and learn effective strategies to enhance your sexual wellbeing.
Whether it's stress, hormonal changes, boredom or relationship dynamics, we provide personalized guidance to help you build the sex life you want.
You crave change but you don't know where to start, don't want to spend thousands on therapy or coaching, and you prefer to do this privately at your own pace.
HERE'S WHAT you'll LEARN
What’s in each module
Learn about the psychology and physiology of desire, as well as common misconceptions that hold you back.
Understand how your own sexual desire works and which obstacles prevent you from getting in the mood. Define your ideal sex scripts and learn techniques for successfully achieving the changes you want.
Change your approach to desire through hands-on exercises that will help you discover new avenues of pleasure.
Learn how to overcome guilt and shame; communication skills to express your needs and desires; strategies to create change with a partner (if you have one); and how to build confidence in the bedroom and beyond.
What people are saying
"This is the sex ed I never had. I’ve been on this journey to learn more about sex and Natassia makes it very easy and approachable to understand. It's helped me explore my sexuality in a safe, positive way, boosting my confidence and connections with others. This knowledge is empowering and something everyone should learn."
Verified Buyer
"I’ve been in a high demanding role at work for a couple of years and it took a big toll on my libido. I’m single and what I love about The Art of Sexual Desire is that it normalizes my experience and has a step by step process with questions I never thought to ask myself. Plus, I’m excited to apply what I’ve learned about communication and sensual exercises with a future sexual partner!”
Verified Buyer
“After 20 years of marriage, my husband and I felt like we were in a rut. I wish I had taken this course when we got married because it would’ve saved us so much time and frustration. We’re doing the exercises to reconnect and in a short period of time it’s already been transformative for our connection and communication!”
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HI, I’m Natassia Miller —sexologist and founder of Wonderlust
For the last five years, I've been researching what it takes to build a genuinely happy and fulfilling sex life and marriage.
It's a common source of struggle, after all. About 50% of American couples report being unhappy with their sex lives and 50% of marriages end in divorce.
So I founded Wonderlust in 2022 with our viral intimacy card deck that makes it easy for couples to talk about sex. Since then, we've grown to over 230K followers across social media and a live sexual wellness event series at Soho House.
We’re on the path to building a library of accessible courses for you to design the sex life and relationship you want. I'm excited to guide you on your journey!
Ready to start?
FAQ's
Both men and women who experience a lack of sexual desire and want to improve their sex lives.
Understand how your own sexual desire works and which obstacles prevent you from getting in the mood. Define your ideal sex scripts and learn techniques for successfully achieving the changes you want.
Yes, it’s a great opportunity for you to learn how sexual desire works, which misconceptions you hold, and how to create change together. While you can’t force your partner to do the exercises, you will be equipped to ask them better questions and navigate this more successfully.
No, this course is for couples and singles. It's for anyone who struggles with desire, regardless of their relationship status. The exercises can be done both with a sexual partner or on your own.